They’ve both said it’s better to be alone than with a terrible person and that they don’t have a choice to be with anyone, so I don’t think they’re really thinking this stuff through.
You don’t understand what I have said. The idea that people must partner is nonsense. I am not required to be a beggar. Implying that everyone must pair is nonsense. I do not care where people meet. Being happy with yourself if far more critical when it comes to building a good relationship. I have been in many long term relationships. When I was young, I made the mistake of thinking I had to “find someone” and compromise. That was one of my dumbest moves in life. The idea that this is normal is idiotic and a main reason people get in terrible situations in life. Work on you first, then you will find someone that intersects your life in naturally compatible ways. If not, that is fine too. Going looking only results in finding people that like to go looking. That results in misery unless you want to spend your life looking.
You are also inferring that my preferred sexual orientation as asexual is invalid. That prejudice is offensive to me in its primitive lack of self awareness and depth.
True, which is why I never wrote that. But many people really want to be with a partner and suffer if they aren’t, and thus if they have very limited options they are “beggars” in the context of that situation using the language of that saying.
You are also inferring that my preferred sexual orientation as asexual is invalid.
No, the issue is that you take your preference/situation as universal. Just because it’s true for you doesn’t mean it’s also true for anon, or that’s it’s not even worth the risk to find out.
Some of us do not have a choice at all.
Are… are you implying you’re envious of people in the psych ward?
They’ve both said it’s better to be alone than with a terrible person and that they don’t have a choice to be with anyone, so I don’t think they’re really thinking this stuff through.
Y’all are stupid halfwits. I’m in social isolation from physical disability.
Hey, that makes two of us! That doesn’t change the argument, either.
You don’t understand what I have said. The idea that people must partner is nonsense. I am not required to be a beggar. Implying that everyone must pair is nonsense. I do not care where people meet. Being happy with yourself if far more critical when it comes to building a good relationship. I have been in many long term relationships. When I was young, I made the mistake of thinking I had to “find someone” and compromise. That was one of my dumbest moves in life. The idea that this is normal is idiotic and a main reason people get in terrible situations in life. Work on you first, then you will find someone that intersects your life in naturally compatible ways. If not, that is fine too. Going looking only results in finding people that like to go looking. That results in misery unless you want to spend your life looking.
You are also inferring that my preferred sexual orientation as asexual is invalid. That prejudice is offensive to me in its primitive lack of self awareness and depth.
True, which is why I never wrote that. But many people really want to be with a partner and suffer if they aren’t, and thus if they have very limited options they are “beggars” in the context of that situation using the language of that saying.
No, the issue is that you take your preference/situation as universal. Just because it’s true for you doesn’t mean it’s also true for anon, or that’s it’s not even worth the risk to find out.